First off let me start with, why the heck is it so hard to Practice Self-Care on ourselves? I almost always put others before my own needs. There are days where I have to force myself, to take care of myself. The secret to consistently staying happy involves putting yourself first. Sounds selfish, doesn’t it?
Guess what? It is okay to be selfish. This does not mean you are a bad person. What it does mean is that you love yourself, and that is not a bad thing.
#1 Wake Up Everyday at the Same Time!
You might not even need that cup of coffee in the morning. . . . Hmmm. Who am I kidding? I will probably always have a cup of coffee in the morning. It is my soul juice. Above all the practice of self-care starts with knowing your limits.
#2 Get into a Morning Routine
Having a routine when you get up, can help you feel prepared for the day. Helps you feel organized, and in control of your life.
Wake up -> Shower -> Wash Face -> Brush Teeth -> Hair/Makeup -> Clothes -> Coffee -> Breakfast
#3Make it a Point to Improve Your Health
Exercise is a dirty word that no one really likes. It automatically makes you think of having to work. It doesn’t have to be work though, it can be fun!
- Dance to Music Randomly throughout the Day
- Be a kid Again and Play tag with a friend
- Have Sex
- Go For A Walk through the City, and Explore!
#4 Aim to Eat Healthier!
I am not saying to go on a diet. Rather what I am saying is to try and make at least one healthy choice during the day! Pretzels instead of potato chips. A handful of grapes over a slice of chocolate cake. Restricting yourself too much can cause a persons willpower to break and go on an eating frenzy.
Set aside at the bare minimum, 10 minutes a day to write out your thoughts. Scribble out all the things you are grateful for. Write if you are harbouring any guilt or negative thoughts, and cleanse your soul. Put your feelings down on paper.
Without a doubt, I love to make lists. Lists of what I am going to do that day, lists of things that I need to do. List of things that make me happy, a list of things that make me sad.
#6 Perform an Act of Kindness
I do not know about you, but whenever I do something for a stranger, it makes me feel good. It doesn’t have to be anything huge. It could be as simple as buying someone a cup of coffee. Leaving a five dollar gift card to Starbucks in a textbook at your local book store. Also, remember compliments go a long way at improving someones day. Think how good you feel when you get a compliment from a complete stranger.
#7 Work to Live, Don’t Live to Work
You only have one life, spend it with family and friends as much as possible! Do not work yourself to death. Your mind and body need rest. No one is going to remember how much money you have/had. They are going to remember how often you answered the phone, how often you came to get-togethers. Eventually, the more you don’t go to these small events, the less invites you will receive.
On the other hand if you love what you do and do not consider it work, you do you. Just remember not to forget your friends and family.
#8 Have a Conversation
Self-care is also about your social psyche. As humans, we automatically crave talking to others so definitely pick up the phone, and call the first person that comes to mind. Maybe, talk to someone at the checkout line. A meaningful conversation is good for the heart and soul. Talk about anything and everything.
#9 Declutter Your Life
Easier said than done, but getting rid of excess stuff you do not need is essential to practising self-care. Furthermore this is something I am still working on to this day. I got one of those dumpsters that sits in your driveway. and got the biggest one that the company had available, and I filled that thing to the brim. I also filled my car with stuff and took it to our local savers. Savers is just a place where you drop off used stuff and they turn around and resell it. And guess what I still have stuff that I need to get rid of.
As a consequence, it feels like a never-ending cycle. Collect stuff, get rid of stuff. Rinse and repeat.
#10 Turn off Your Phone Before Bed
Now, I don’t necessarily mean turn it off, turn it off. Most people use their phone as an alarm of some sort. Just stop using it before bed, instead, do something to help you get your mind calmed. Like take a hot bath, or read a book.
#11 Get Enough Sleep
I never go to bed at the same time each night. I have a toddler, you are asking the impossible. What I do have is this nifty website that gives me suggested times to go to sleep based on my wake up time and age. It literally will help you feel rested each day.
In conclusion, practising Self Care is not something that comes naturally. It takes time to form this habit. People-pleasing seems to be most peoples go-to habit, whether they know it or not is entirely different. Consequently, self-care gets put on the back burner.♥ The Radically Adorkable Sarah