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Forgiving Yourself

by The Radically Adorkable Sarah
Forgiving yourself

Forgiveness is funny. I always have an easier time forgiving others than I do myself. Forgiving yourself should be a priority in life.

When I mess up, it eats at my soul. I think to myself why did I do that? How could I have acted like that? So and so did not deserve to be treated that way.

Saying you are sorry is sometimes the only thing you can say, and it does not feel like enough. Forgiving yourself is getting past the fact that sometimes all you can do is say sorry, learning from what you did so that you never repeat the same mistake. It is growing.  When I was going through my divorce I think of how I treated him and how I have learned from it. I remember shutting down emotionally to him and he would be begging, almost pleading with me to just talk to him. Thoughts would form in my head, but It was like my ability to speak was taken from me.

Forgiving Yourself

There is nothing I can do about the fact that my mouth was having constipation issues. I have learned from that experience that sometimes you just need to force the words out, no matter how painful the words might be for the other person to hear, it would be better than silence. Not saying anything at all.

Everyone has a different reason why they need to forgive themselves, but every person usually has a reason.

A tactic I like to use to be able to forgive myself for past transgressions or current ones is I think of the person I am closest with and ask myself would I forgive him/her? I am going to say 99.9% of the time the answer is yes.

Looking in the mirror, you are staring at your worst critic.

– ♥ The Radically Adorkable Sarah

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5 comments

luisa zambrotta September 26, 2019 - 2:46 am

Great article.
You are so right: forgiving oneself is terribily hard

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RadicallyAdorkable September 26, 2019 - 4:53 am

Probably one of the hardest things to do in life.

Thank you for Reading 🙂

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Adreanne Tripplett October 3, 2019 - 5:03 pm

This is, by far, the hardest thing for me to do. I’ve been so hard on myself in the past that it basically tore me down. I guess I figured that I’m not allowed to make mistakes or something. But I’m learning how to be more forgiving of myself (and others). This post was very helpful 💕

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[email protected] October 3, 2019 - 5:13 pm

Everybody is allowed to make mistakes, it is a part of being human. It is the knowledge acquired from the mistake and how we use it in the future that matters Thank You for your feedback!

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bexleah October 4, 2019 - 1:30 am

Forgiving yourself is so hard. I wish it was easy, it would make like so much easier.
I love your tactic though. Definitely going to try that one out next time!

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