Forgiveness is funny. I always have an easier time forgiving others than I do myself. Forgiving yourself should be a priority in life.
When I mess up, it eats at my soul. I think to myself why did I do that? How could I have acted like that? So and so did not deserve to be treated that way.
Saying you are sorry is sometimes the only thing you can say, and it does not feel like enough. Forgiving yourself is getting past the fact that sometimes all you can do is say sorry, learning from what you did so that you never repeat the same mistake. It is growing. When I was going through my divorce I think of how I treated him and how I have learned from it. I remember shutting down emotionally to him and he would be begging, almost pleading with me to just talk to him. Thoughts would form in my head, but It was like my ability to speak was taken from me.
There is nothing I can do about the fact that my mouth was having constipation issues. I have learned from that experience that sometimes you just need to force the words out, no matter how painful the words might be for the other person to hear, it would be better than silence. Not saying anything at all.
Everyone has a different reason why they need to forgive themselves, but every person usually has a reason.
A tactic I like to use to be able to forgive myself for past transgressions or current ones is I think of the person I am closest with and ask myself would I forgive him/her? I am going to say 99.9% of the time the answer is yes.
Looking in the mirror, you are staring at your worst critic.
– ♥ The Radically Adorkable Sarah