Whether you are a working mom, stay at home mom, happily married mom, or single mom the struggle of mom burnout is real.
You know when you are pregnant and everyone tells you all the amazing things that come with being a parent? They fail to mention that it can get lonely and that you feel like you lose your identity. No longer are you “Sarah”. You are Mom.
The maid. . .
The cook. . .
The comforter. . .
The photographer. . . (without pictures of you and your little one)
You have taken the job to be on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Hey, Momma, I Can See You Are Suffering From Mom Burnout
As I am sitting on the couch addressing mom burnout, I am thinking of all the reasons on how I “failed” at being a good mom. I didn’t cook my son a home-cooked meal. There are dishes in the sink, and vacuuming didn’t get done. I am questioning if I spent enough “quality” time with my son? Did I lose my “shit” one too many times? *insert exasperated sigh here*
Guess what all those “failures” have in common? They are unrealistic expectations set in the mind of a mom who just wants to give her baby the best.
Moms are good at guilting themselves into feeling like they didn’t do enough for their kids.
You get to a point where you know you love your kids, but you are tired. You are worn out from the everyday caring of another person who doesn’t give anything back.
Well, you might get a hug there, or maybe even a kiss.
Is that enough though? I know you feel like it should be enough.
A happy mom raises happy kids. You need to take care of yourself.
How do you Overcome Mom Burnout?
Mom Burnout sucks, hardcore. What can you do to overcome it?
Start with the simple task of taking care of yourself. Take time for yourself and stop mom guilting yourself. (Easier said than done I know).
What are some things that you used to do? Did you used to love reading a good book? OR are you a painter? Video-Game Lover?
Get connected with your innerself again by doing the things you love and used to do all the time before having kids!
Who am I talking about exactly? Do you remember those people that you used to hang out with before your baby came along?
You know who I am talking about.
MAKE PLANS STAT. Find a babysitter, go out for some much-needed hangout time.
I know that when I get around another adult after having spent the last week with my 17 month old that I have word vomit. Any and every thought just comes expelling out of my mouth. . .
Set aside 30 minutes a day. Just 30 minutes.
This does not mean to hide in the closet with a box of Oreos. This means reach out and get help from loved ones/friends and have them watch your crotch goblins for just 30 minutes. You can take this time to nap, make a Starbucks run. Just use this time to get some peace and quiet.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Self-care is so important. Wake up in the morning brush your teeth, wash your face, take a shower. I know that this can seem overwhelming with a little one attached to you at the hip.
Just the other day I decided to take a shower in the morning while my son was awake, and he stood there at the shower door banging on it. He even managed to open the sliding door and get into the shower in his pajamas. BUT I felt clean and amazing. I was a happier mom for taking those 10 minutes.
Don't Let Mom Burnout Get You Down
Right now you are exhausted from the daily wear and tear that comes with being a mom.
Remember that it won’t last forever, and if you take time for yourself a little bit each day, it can improve your happiness.
You will get through this whole mom burnout thing.